His Plan

Valentine's day. The day that anybody who is not a loser celebrates not being a loser. It's the day that teachers bear through hyper kids, and trees are sacrificed for a cute picture and a dorky saying. The whole concept is kind of sickening really.

Of course I'm a cynical single person whose best chance at romance is one of those cheesy cards from a student. I get that when you're in love, you want to celebrate it. That's cool. You've got a special someone in your life that makes you feel special. It's sweet really. I mean if you are genuinely celebrating the fact that you love someone then yay for you. I mean it from the bottom of my heart. Really.

I guess it's the commercialism of the whole thing that drives me nuts. It's the pressure to do something. Will he send you flowers? Where is he taking you for dinner? Does he write you a card telling you how much he loves you? It's all a big Hallmark holiday. It's a chance for businesses to take advantage of a poor pressured soul and make him feel like he's a bad person if he doesn't give his girl anything less than diamonds and the world.

And then there's the singles. We like to refer to this day as Singles Awareness Day. It's a time that we can remember that we are ever so alone. No matter how secure in our singleness we are, this day sort of rubs it in our faces. We feel like losers. No one is interested in us. No one thinks that we're attractive. We're alone for a reason.

Most-and I stress most-of the time I'm happy being single. I don't mind spending my Friday nights alone. I kind of like having a quiet home to come home to after a stressful day at work. I like the lack of boy drama in my life. I'm content the way I am. God has me here for a reason. If he plans on bringing love into my life, He will do it in His time. He will do it when it is perfect. I trust that. I know that He has a plan for my life and that it is not only right, it is good. That's because He is good. He loves me and He wants what's best for me. I'm ok with that.

So why am i going off on the day of love when I'm content with my love life? Maybe to remind you that even if you have that special someone in your life already, it doesn't make you a non-loser. God brought you together. It has nothing to do with your lack of losership and everything to do with God. Maybe it's to remind the other singles that you aren't a loser because you don't have a significant other. God has a plan for you and it's perfect. Don't let our culture tell you that your worth is based upon a date on the 14th of February. Your worth is more predacious than sliver or gold. Your worth is Jesus.



Shake us up, Lord!